6/16/2010

Thoughtful friends


Today I had two wonderful surprises. The first was from my friend Heather who works in a winery in Michigan. She sent me two bottles of wine (one for now, one for 2015) and a note "from Amelie". It made me a little teary it was so sweet!

I also got a card in the mail from a friend's parents who I had never met. They sent me the most beautiful message in the card.

6/15/2010

My Shower and Last Hurrah
























































I had the most amazing shower this weekend, organized by the most amazing friends. It was very cherry blossom themed (as that is what her room will be like) with a wine tasting theme because why not! Everyone had a ball. Thank you all for coming!










6/10/2010

Newest Pics of Amelie


Ok...clearly I am not computer savvy. I scanned the newest pics and they saved in PDF format. So, as per the instructions of a fellow RQ'er I saved them as a jpeg through Paint. Well, it worked....kind of. I had to do a print screen which literally printed everything, including the toolbar....but here is all of her...in 15 layers of clothing as the Chinese love to bundle them up even in mid-summer!

6/09/2010

The stork does not always have feathers....


He came today and arrived with a few extra pics and her medical info. Sending it off to a prominant IA doc to review. I am confident that it will all be well!

6/08/2010

November 19, 2009

The day my precious little gal was born. She is a Scorpio and also Year of the Ox...just like her mama.

I have been keeping a journal the last several years so I could look back and see what I was doing the day she was born. Not all that exciting...or so I thought! "Went to Barbara's to work on the newsletter, took Annie to the dog park. Almost went to Bar Louie to meet the gals but too upset at the rumors on RQ to leave home. Watched The Office and made banana bread instead."

Funny I was too upset by adoption rumors to go have fun...little did I know, halfway across the world, my little love was born.

The SWI in Fuzhou City-Jiangxi Province


We are so very blessed that our little angel is in a Half the Sky supported orphanage. Children in these orphanages have higher caregiver to children ration, more stimulation for the children, ac/heat, more toys for development, ect. We are so blessed that our little girl is being taken good care of. I can sleep a little better at night knowing she is in good hands.

www.halfthesky.org

May I introduce....


Fu Jiu Gzhang....born November 19, 2009. She is a good sleeper, loves to nap (hey me too!), loves the water and to have baths, wakes at 6 am (yikes), she loves to laugh, is active and restless. Weighs a teeny 12 pounds!!!!!!!

In a Little While

Listening to my favorite U2 song over and over this morning as I anxiously await the call....

In a little while Surely you'll be mine In a little while I'll be there In a little while This hurt will hurt no more I'll be home, love!

When the night takes a deep breath And the daylight has no air If I crawl, if I come crawling home Will you be there

In a little while I won't be blown by every breeze Friday night running To Sunday on my knees

That girl, that girl She's mine And I've know her since Since she was a little girl With Spanish eyes Oh, when I saw her In a pram they pushed her by

My, how you've grown Well it's been, yeah It's been a little while

Slow down my beating heart Man dreams one day to fly A man takes a rocketship into the skies He lives on a star that's dying in the night And follows in the trail The scatter of light

Slow down my beating heart Slowly, slowly love Slow down my beating heart Slowly, slowly love Slow down my beating heart

6/07/2010

If the phone doesn't ring...it's me (or my agency)


Ok...so no news of calls being made in Europe, so maybe they didn't land today. Ugh. GETMEOFFTHISROLLERCOASTERNOW!!

6/03/2010

Red Thread

"The Red Thread" is a symbolic saying very popular among families adopting from China. The Red Thread is an old Chinese saying that means when babies are born they are already connected to the important people in his/her life by a red thread. This thread can be twisted or stretched, but notbroken.

How the Matching Room Works


As stolen from RQ:


First, they review the baby dossiers and make sure there are no issues with them. We are told that they then count up all of the baby dossiers that are eligible for matching that month and then look to see how far this stack will go in the parent dossiers without sending out a partial day, and they pull all of those parent files. That is the likely cut-off date. Sometimes something happens and they donĂ¢€™t get this far. Sometimes something happens and they get farther.
Next they match orphanages up with agencies. This orphanage has six babies, this agency has six families. These two orphanages are in the same province and have a total of 12 babies, this agency has 12 families. When they are through with this is when (I believe) some agencies start to get information about the cut-off date. Or at least it is when they used to start getting information.


And then they start matching individual babies to individual families. At some point during this part of the process most agencies used to hear from their person in the matching room to let them know how many referrals they will be receiving and from what province(s). Some agencies shared this information with their clients. Some chose not to. Recently I’ve gotten the feeling that many agencies are still getting this information but they are being given orders by the CCAA to not share this information with the families.


Just as in the review room, each matcher is assigned certain agencies and is responsible for communicating with their agencies. Some matchers tell their agency the cut-off date, some matchers tell their agency “you have X number of referrals arriving”, some matchers give their agency a list of that agency’s families that will be receiving a referral. And some matchers don’t say anything at all to their agencies.


The next question that comes up is generally how the matchers match families and babies. I’ve heard from several people who have had the opportunity to speak with someone who works in the matching room. The various conversations seem to all agree that they first look for something that stands out: a matching birthday, a baby who looks a lot like a parent, or a baby who likes music and a parent who teaches music. Several matching people have stated they match by bone structure of the baby’s face and the parent’s faces (this is why they need our passport photos, so they can compare our mug shot with the baby’s mug shot). Some have stated that they used Chinese astrology, also. Once they’ve matched the obvious matches they then start to look at things like age of child requested. The age requested is not a priority for them, they feel they are matching families and not filling orders.

We are being matched!


Ok, breathe, breathe, breathe......I know I have been bad about posting but there hasn't been much interesting going on with the wait until now. The CCAA is matching right now. Matching our child to our file. And then in a few short days...I hope...they will wrap up all the files for this batch and send them on a FedEx plane to the adoption agencies all over the world. And then we will get "the call". Let's just say my production level at work ain't all that great. I can't do anything but think about my kid!


This picture is of the matching room over in China. All the colored files are for a different agency. I wonder what color CCAI is? Ah...who cares....I want to see what is in the file!


4/21/2010

Honey Do List

I haven't been around much, as I have been working like mad, dancing like crazy, crossing things off my never ending list of refile documents and even snuck away for a day and a half to the Keys. Keep your fingers crossed for a May referral, so my entries can get interesting again!

4/09/2010

China's One Child Policy....

It's interesting to me that some people have the concept in their heads that China's one child policy simply means that the Chinese prefer boys and "throw their girls away". I get this comment so many times and it makes me shake my head. But I can't blame people. I didn't even get it until I read "Wanting a Daughter, Needing a Son". It's not simply a matter “preferring to have a boy.” It’s so much more complex than that. Without a son, parents won’t have anyone to take care of them when they are too old to work. In China, when daughters marry, they go to the husband’s family where they are then expected to care for the husband’s aging parents. You have to understand the whole culture, in order to make sense of the situation. Parents don’t prefer to abandon their daughters. It breaks their hearts. Often, the mother doesn’t have a choice-- the baby may be taken from her as soon as she is born; the mother feels the pain of labor, hears the baby cry, hears the announcement that the baby is female, and then never sees the child again. Often another family member will clothe the baby, write a loving note with vital information, and take the baby to an orphanage or market place in secret. I also read in "Wanting a Daughter, Needing a Son", that many of the girls who are abandoned or given up have an older biological sister still living with her biological parents. I know in my heart that my daughter was born last fall and was given up many months ago. I also know that somewhere across the world, there’s a woman who grieves every day for having lost her daughter. I feel a strong responsibility to that unknown woman, to provide my daughter with the love and the life she was not permitted to. I will honor that woman and think and pray for her on my daughter's birthdays and on Mother's Day.

4/07/2010

Background

Apparently HotBliggityBlog.com is no longer in business. Nice to get a notification. I had to upload a new background. It's cute, but the middle part I am not crazy about. Anyone know how I can get the whole blog customized?

4/06/2010

Woodsie has her baby!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!


My buddy Heather met her adorable Norah yesterday. Her referral pics had the same adorable pig tails. She is just too adorable for words. Congrats mama Woodsie!!!!

4/05/2010

Magical Powers

Apparently I have them. The CCA^ was five days late in sending the stork so I put out a plea on FB to hurry the heck up. Within ten minutes RQ updated her site to say that some agencies received referrals. Abra Abra Cadabra...I wanna reach out and grab ya! They are up to April 17th. No surprise there. My prediction...up to April 21st in May and then our stork will land in early June. Just 9 weeks. I had a little happy cry today. It's feeling mighty real, and scary, and wonderful!

3/31/2010

Someday a Mom





Someday a Mom


As a girl I had a common dream, to be a mom someday.

My baby would have eyes of green and hair the hue of hay.

But now my dreams have been transformed.

New visions fill my head.

Now the tresses that I long to stroke are raven black instead.


And in my dreams those eyes are not so big or blue or round.

Now in my dreams they're almond shape and colored cocoa brown.

And in my dream my arms can stretch across enormous seas.

They reach half-way around the world and hold you close to me.


As you grow in your mother's womb, carefully knit together,

Your also growing in my heart, where you will stay forever.

And in my dreams the moment that your mother says good-bye,I

'll be right there to comfort you and hold you as you cry.


Our features may not look alike; we're different as can be.

But still I know the father has created you for me.

And though I've not yet seen your face, or held your tiny hands,

And though we're half a world apart in very different lands.


I'll be right there to get you just as soon as God allows.

But til he says the time is right I give to you this vow.

I'll pray for your protection every night on bended knee

for God will hold you in his arms, until you're home with me!

The Paper Pregnant Wait

THE PAPER PREGNANT WAIT

An Ultrasound,
Or Referral.
Our first peek at,
Our boy or girl.

Some are Pregnant,
We're Adopting.
What's the Diff'rence.
Really Nothing.

Some come by Stork,
Some come by Plane,
When they arrive,
It's all the same.

Our boys and girls,
Despite the path,
Still need our love,
Our hugs and laughs.

We dream daily,
How she's doing,
What she looks like,
How she's feeling.

Is She Healthy,
And do they care,
Is she happy,
Or is she scared.

Do they hold her,
Rock her to sleep,
Do they give her,
Enough to eat.

I vent my fears,
Four words per line,
I let them out,
With words that rhyme.

We read the books,
On Week-by-Week,
On how she grows,
And best car seats.

I watch the clock,
And Calendar too.
Trying to guess,
When she is due.

Not for the day,
When she arrives,
But for the day,
She joins our lives.

Because one day,
Out of the blue,
Our girl is born,
Somehow we knew.

We are pregnant,
In our own way,
All celebrate,
"Forever Day".

Despite my fears,
I must have faith,
Warm and healthy,
I know she's safe.

How do I wait?
I've asked before,
The Paper Pregnant wait,
I'll wait some more.

Parenting Classes


Whew....good thing I took that class online. It was a very discounted class and I got what I paid for!