A small adoption update

Here is an article in a New Mexico newspaper. Finally, one congresswoman has listened to an adoptive family's plea to extend the 171H. She is going to try to get this bill passed. I really hope it does, I can't imagine having to redo EVERYTHING again and spend another 4 grand on all of the paperwork since our moneytree blew away with Hurricane Wilma last year:


Wilson Helps New Mexico Families with International Adoption
Introduces the Helping Families Adopt Orphans ActWashington, DC – Congresswoman Heather Wilson today announced she has introduced the Helping Families Adopt Orphans Act, legislation to aid families adopting orphans from foreign countries. “This legislation updates a policy on international adoption that makes sense, given the longer wait times families now experience in processing the adoption of orphans,” said Wilson. “This problem was brought to my attention by a constituent, and it is a simple change we can make to build strong families.”Andrew and Constance Johnson of Albuquerque had written to Wilson in May about the possibility that their I-171H form would expire before their adoption of an orphan from China was complete. “We wrote to Heather Wilson about our problem, and to our surprise we got a call from her office two weeks later saying she was introducing legislation to fix our problem,” said Constance Johnson. “My husband and I want to adopt a child from China, but we worry everyday that our paperwork will expire before we have our child. Reapplying would be expensive, time-consuming, and burdensome. The 18-month expiration no longer makes sense.” The legislation would extend the validity of the I-171H “Notice of Favorable Determination Concerning Application for Advance Processing of Orphan Petition” form to at least two years. This form is issued by the U.S. Citizenship and Immigration Service, an agency of the Department of Homeland Security. It is the final form needed to adopt international orphans and is the ticket to adoption for many families. The form is currently valid for 18 months, although the time needed to complete the adoption process has significantly increased over the last few years because of delays in travel approval, visas for orphans, and additional processing time to gain approval by foreign governments. The I-171H form has an application fee of $545, plus $70 per person for fingerprints. Several other forms are needed before receiving approval, including a home study to ensure the home is safe and stable, birth and marriage certificates, health and financial records, criminal background checks, and other information. The entire cost of international adoption can be thousands of dollars. If the form expires before the adoption is complete, a family must reapply and re-submit all applicable forms, fees, and evaluations. This can be prohibitively costly for many hopeful parents.

Waiter, there is a fly in my suitcase

Well, I am up in the great state of Maryland, enjoying a very relaxing week with my family doing not much of anything. My mom's house has a nice big back yard with a fabulous garden and gazebo. I have been sitting back there most of the day and reading. In the morning I have been getting up early and walking/jogging through the neighborhood hills. I thought I was in decent shape, but my calves are killing me from the inclines-no hills in the sunshine state! Last night we went to some funky art museum called the American Visionary Art museum. I guess you need a certain vision to appreciate that kind of art-most of it looked like a 5 year old painted it. We all kept looking at the "art" and then at each other and stuttered "Ohhhh-kaaaay?" After our rather short visit to the museum we headed to Little Italy in downtown Baltimore. It's a sin, but I have never been there in all of my visits up here so I insisted. Little Italy consists of 6 blocks of nothing but Italian restaurants and pastry shops. We finally settled on one place that looked exactly like the basement of the castle where we stayed at on our honeymoon in Italy. I loved it. They had a prix fix menu that included cesear salad, veal piccata and a ginormous piece of Tarimusu(I ate every last bite). I felt like Fat Bastard (Get In My BELL-AY) afterwards. Good thing I walked the hills this morning!

Oh, what is the title of this post all about? The first night here, about 1 am, a fly got into my room. I was up until 2:30 chasing it and trying to give it it's rightful death. I was trying so hard to not wake up the folks, but it's quite difficult since I was up and down on the bed, swatting at the curtains, the lamp, the ceiling fan, the ceiling. I finally allowed it to meet it's dimise by spraying it with a half a can of hairspray. I should have thought of that in the first place.

Well, gotta run, have to go to the drugstore, I need to replace the hairspray!

Book Worm

I certainly have been catching up with my reading lately. As I have written before we don't(gasp) have cable, and as with cable, there is usually shit on tv(I can say shit, our pastor said it during the sermon said it this morning, it was really funny and he turned bright, bright red...oops). Anyhow, I am a super quick reader, a speed reader if you will.

My favorite book this summer was a gift from David, I mean the kitties, for my b-day. It was called "The Memory Keeper's Daughter " by Kim Edwards. You can read more about it here but it's about a man in the 1960's who after his wife has twins, one healthy boy and one girl with down syndrome, asks the nurse to take the girl and drop her off at an institution. The father tells the mother the girl was stillborn and it deeply emotionally impacts her. The nurse, who is single and wants a child decides to raise her on her own. The decision the father and the nurse made that night provide a very interesting story line(s), The father and the nurse keep in touch with letters but don't meet until 20 years later and the end of the book. It's a really good read.

I am reading Authenticity by Diedre Madden right now. It's ok, a book has to be pretty bad for me to stop halfway through.

Next up I'll dive into a Bridgit Jones's Diary type book...Goodnight Nobody by Jennifer Weiner.

I am off to Baltimore tomorrow for a week to visit my mom, so I'll be doing LOTS of reading while I am off of work and just relaxing! Poor D has to work all by himself!

Hu Yong Yi

Ok, how great is this artist? I have to have one of his prints to go over the crib, or maybe for the living room?

More B-day pics

Apparently, one can only add 5 pics at a time...so here are a few more of the Cottage and one of the Sundy House brunch for your viewing pleasure.

Birthday Memoirs Part 3

Went to the Sundy House on my actual day with friends from Michigan-April and Zack, but forgot my camera. Went to Sol Kitchen for dinner then to GiGi's for some dancing.

For the big celebration, about 30 of us gathered at the lovely Cottage in Lake Worth.

There was even a magician who stopped by and made us elaborate balloon animals and did amazing card tricks- some with fire. Check out the picture of the magician and David with the deck on fire!

On Sunday I had a "girl's brunch" at the Sundy House. Ate too much food, drank too many mimosas. Perfect day with my girls!

Till next year!

Birthday Memoirs Part 2

I always include July 4th as a part of my b-day since it's just 2 days away. De Ja Vu-we went to Tom's place off of Atlantic to watch the fireworks on the beach. You can see at least three fireworks displays up and down the beach with the main one straight ahead. I love Florida. Tom made an awsome "pre-game" dinner and "special" lemonade. Thanks Mr.T!

Birthday memoirs Part 1

Thought I'd share a few photos from my birthday week! My friends certainly had me partying till the cows came home!

This is from the balcony of the RiverWalk hotel off of Las Olas in Ft Lauderdale. We stayed there overnight, enjoyed an scrumpoius dinner-note the mini chocolate cakes-yum, and then had brunch and mimosas at the Jazz Fest the next day. Ronnie liked the golden lion at the entrance of the hotel, and yes I know the picture is upside down, but I am nowhere near a techie so it's staying.

Quilt progress

84 down...16 to go.... It's looking pretty darn good!

I want this!!!!!!

Damn, my birthday passed. Happy Battle of the Boyne Day is this week, according to my Tim McGraw calendar (I am embarrased) . Anyhow...I want this.

A few random things about moi.....

Ok, probably a little too much about me, but I am not too big on secrets....

1. I DETEST ricotta cheese , the texture of it makes me gag. Yes, I will refuse lasagna easily. My Italian grandparents would be ashamed.
2. I once broke my ankle and foot in three places-on a stationary bike. I was like 11 and clearly retarded.
3. I am petrified of escalators and will go out of my way to find stairs or an elevator to get to any lower level. Dude-my aunt fell down one when I was 3 and I fell on top of her-now you know why. Doesn't explain the fear of ricotta though.....
4. In college I got stood up by Steve Guttenburg. I also got my fake ID taken from me that same night for having a coca cola(yup-straight) in my hand. Yeah-that was a college low-point evening. It's a good story-I'll have to share it with you-over a coca-cola(I'm "legal" now).
5. My dad dated my step-grandmother before dating my mom. My brother is a year younger than my mom. I have a neice who is 10 years older than me. No, I did not grow up in West Virginia, why do you ask?
6. I can never chew gum for more than 30 seconds. I will spit the gum out and then grab another and repeat. I wonder after an hour where that damn new pack of gum went.

CCAA news

Ok, I know I haven't posted anything about the adoption lately, because well, there is nothing to share and nothing is new. The latest word from the agencies and the CCAA is that the CCAA can process only around 700 applications a month. They are receiving around 2000. You do the math, it's too hard for me(not mentally hard, just emotionally). Ok, if you can't do the math, it'll take them around 3 months for each month of LID's. So we won't see funshine's face until 2008-maybe? Argh. So-my coping skills for this adoption drama, in case you can't tell is to JUST NOT THINK ABOUT IT! I haven't even so much as opened the guest closet to oogle the baby clothes. I refuse to purchase anything for at least another year. BTW-alot of boys were referred last month to families who requested girls. Which is another reason I can't buy anything else, it may have to go back and that receipt will long expire. Baby Amelie may in fact be baby Max.

So, I am sorry to disappoint for those of you hungry for any adoption updates on our front. I'd like some updates too. For now I'll have to entertain you with snippits and pictures from my over-active social life. I celebrated my b-day 5 times. I am not complaining, I love it-I just wish at the end of a crazy night I came home to my precious daughter(or son?). Then again, if I had her home I doubt I'd be celebrating 5 times-maybe 1 or 2 at the most. Trying to keep repeating to myself "enjoy it while you can", but it's not very reassuring! Soon, Kristen...soon.

Color me happy!

I love surprises! My great friend Heather surprised me with this today from Red Envelope. I can't wait to wear them with Amelie!

Didya catch Dateline?

I just got finished watching Dateline and since it's an hour till the best show ever-Grey's Anatomy-I thought I'd share some thoughts on tonight's Dateline story. It was about a bunch of couples who were infertile and were desperate to have a baby. They all used the internet to do research on adopting and all of the couples found a mother wanting to give up her baby. The unfortunate part of the story is that the pregnant mother duped each of those couples. She told each and every one of them that she chose for them to be the parents. She scammed the poor couples for "rent money", "grocery" money and gift cards. Dateline followed her and her girlfriend after they got the money and watched them dine in fine restaurants and splurge on baby items for a baby they clearly intended on keeping. They did the whole hidden camera thing with one of the hopeful couples and the pregnant mother talked for hours with her about giving up the baby. Man, was she ever convincing. So, now these couples have an empty nursery(one of the couples actually was referred and given another baby a month after the interview). It was so sad, I was bawling(doesn't take much these days). It could have easily been David and I had we decided to go the domestic route. I know for every case like that, there are 100 families who do end up with a baby, but still. The most disgusting part of this story is that police have nothing to charge her for and she doesn't have to pay back any of the money, that is the law. I think somehow they could charge her with fraud but I guess not. For all of the crap D and I have been through, it's nothing compared to these poor families. I just can't beleive someone can be so evil and cruel and hope somehow justice wins.

Hope for Bio baby yet!

Ok, so I still have 30, er make that 29, years to get pregnant:

LONDON (Reuters) - A 62-year-old child psychiatrist has become Britain's oldest mother after undergoing fertility treatment abroad, a newspaper reported on Saturday.

Imagine for a moment

An Accidental Adoption

(I "borrowed" this from another mama blog-it's no big crime, everyone is doing it! ha!)

You hear all the time about "accidental" pregnancies, can you imagine couples who experience "accidental" adoptions?

Picture this:

Honey, sit down. I have some news for you.

What is it?

Well, I don't know how to say this, so I'll just come out with it. I went out to the mailbox today and ... well, we got an I-171H.

A what?!? An I-171H? As in, we're going to have a(nother) baby?!?

It looks that way.

But how? We've been so careful! I put away all the blank I-600A forms. Didn't you hide our homestudy update?

Of course I did. But don't forget, there was that one night...

What night? (pauses) Ohhh, that night. But it was only once. We were just messing around. I didn't print clearly. I didn't even use ink! (pauses again) But it was kind of fun. (giggles)

It was, wasn't it? I'll never forget how cute you looked getting your fingerprints.

So now we've got our I-171H, eh? But that doesn't always mean you'll adopt, does it? I mean, shouldn't you see the agency or something, make sure everything's okay?

I already did.

And?

I'm five documents along.

Five documents!

And they're all notarized, certified and authenticated okay?

Just great.

There was one small scare when the agency couldn't see the Notary's middle initial, but it showed up just fine under the magnifying glass.

Thank God. And you, honey? Are you feeling okay?

I'm feeling fine. As long as I know you're happy about this.

Happy? I'm thrilled! It's always a shock at first when something like this happens, but of course I'm happy.

.....hehehehe :)

I am an Ass...or maybe a Whale

As noted by one of the other adopting blog mama gals, right now, the referral wait ('gestation') is running around 345 days. We are currently at 78 days-but who's counting(oh, me).

At this point, I won't even mind having a lot in common with an Ass, or even a whale(that's about 15 months) - just keep me away from those stinky Elephants! :)

Hippopotamus -- 240
Horse -- 336
Ass -- 365
Whale -- 457
Elephant -- 624

You Know the Wait is Getting Long When....

Ok, so it's only been 2.5 months of waiting, but I am already sympathizing with some of these:

You Know the Wait is Getting Long When....

Somebody posted this in one of the groups, I thought it was cute and oh so true. Some of these I wrote myself, the others are copied. Still funny though.

You know the wait is getting long when:

1. The nursery closet starts bursting because you decided to buy her just one outfit a month.

2. You start calling all the Chinese names in the phone book asking them if they have any relatives that work at the CCAA.

3. You have switched from dressing up your 20lb bag of rice bear to dressing up your cat.

4. Your agency informs you that you really aren't required to call twice a day to make sure that they have your correct phone number on file.

5. The Fed-Ex truck is no longer allowed to drive down your street, because someone keeps chasing the truck.

6. Neighbors duck into their homes when they see you walking to the mailbox - especially after you decked the last person that said "Have you heard anything yet?"

7. You start wondering if it would have been faster to have actually dug that hole to China instead.

8. You have practiced packing your luggage so many times that you have to buy new luggage because the zippers have worn out.

9. What started out as a cute hobby of putting out a ladybug house in the garden, has turned into a wholesale business of selling ladybugs worldwide.

10. The highlight of your day, sadly, is to run to the mailbox to get new quilt squares.

World Cup Widow No More!

I am actually quite proud of myself. I found myself sitting and watching at least 5 or 6 games with the hubbins. I even asked thoughtful questions and learned a bit. Soccer isn't nearly as daftly boring as I thought it would be! Just don't tell D I said that. Our little secret, ok? I am however, very very glad the next WC is another 4 years away.

Changing my birthDAY

Ok, so for the umpteenth year in a row, I am changing our celebration plans. It rains 9 times out of 10 on my birthday. We had big plans to celebrate tonight outdoors at the Cottage, but no...Mr. Weatherman says it's going to downpour. So, we'll do it next week. I am not too disappointed, I had a fabulous week already! Have I mentioned before that I heart my friends?

I am changing my birthday to a less rainy month-say February. While I am at it, I am changing the year too. My new DOB is 02-14-82. Come join me to celebrate my 25th on V-day next year! While I am at it, I am changing my weight(down) and salary(up) too!

Go shorty, it's your birf-day

Well, this week I celebrate the big 3-3. I thought by the time I was 35 I'd have a couple of rugrats running around, but I have made peace with the fact that our house is disturbingly quiet(especially with Q's passing, sniff sniff). I am appreciating my time sans little ones right now. As a birthday gift, our friends took us down to Las Olas in Fort Lauderdale and got us a room and took us to dinner. We had a fabulous time. We even got a few mimosa hours in on Sunday at the Riverfront park before a tropical system moved through. Thanks to all who braved the weather. For those who didn't get to come, I hope to see you on Friday. I am celebrating the whole week long(I am still 32 until 4:30 am on Thursday).

On a disturbing note, I just found out that I share the same birthday as George Dub-ya. Ew. I seriously can't believe in the who astrology phenomenon now-there is no way in hell I share any characterisitics with-well-I'll be nice and just call him Mr. President. Sly Stallon aslo shares my day as well as the twins from that terrible 80's show "Sister, Sister". Can't I have anyone remotely cool share July 6th-say I don't know, George Clooney, Janis Joplin, Bono, even Bill Clinton?

Hopefully next year a miracle will happen and Amelie will celebrate my 34th with me! Now that would be an amazing b-day gift!